speak from the heart

So I heard multiple people reference the book, The Five Love Languages, in relation to their romances and then I noticed it prominently displayed at Borders.  Actually I think the first time I heard the title was on Real Housewives of Orange County - shoot me now.  Needless to say, Gary Chapman's ideas have swept up masses, or at least brought them to purchase and skim the book.

I guess the book is a way for lovers to find out what "language they speak" and what their partner wants to "hear".  The five:

Words of Affirmation  Kind, affirming words of praise build confidence, trust and respect.
Quality Time  Conversations, walks and shared meals are things couples can do together if one of them needs to feel loved this way.
Physical Touch  A preference for receiving love through physical touch involves hugging, holding hands, kissing, caressing and patting that doesn't necessarily lead to sexual intercourse.
Gifts to Express Love  People who feel loved when they receive a present indicate their primary love language is through the receiving of gifts. It is the number of gifts, not the size or cost, that count.
Acts of Service  Preparing a meal, running errands, doing the laundry, cleaning a car, mowing the grass, fixing a leaky faucet, painting a room, vacuuming the floor and cleaning the bathroom or kitchen all are acts of service for the benefit of a loved one.

Chapman's five languages of love can all be simplified down to one message - generosity.  I take it he agrees that the best way to love is to share yourself with another.

& I think it's safe to say we all speak that language.